Anytime the word Cancer is mentioned, it is alarming alone. Being a nurse, it is heard often. But to hear your friend, someone you love, has been diagnosed with cancer for me was devastating.

Ann MarieAnytime the word Cancer is mentioned, it is alarming alone. Being a nurse, it is heard often. But to hear your friend, someone you love, has been diagnosed with cancer for me was devastating.  My second thoughts and feelings were what I can do?  How can I be there to help her through this?  I was there as much as possible with Angel in her journey to fight cancer. I have some very fond memories of this. Sometimes as sad as it all was, I can think of them and smile. Like when we went to the Dana Farber Cancer Center to have Chemo. We packed snacks, music of course, conversation and laughter. The nurses would be like “What is going on in here?” Angel always requested a room with a view (just in case any construction guys would be out there to view). If they gave her a room without windows she requested a change right away, with light, sunshine and a view.  I remember the day she shaved her head. We went into just any random hair salon and Angel said “I would like my head shaved please”. They of course said no problem. Angel had very long hair. She wanted to be proactive and not wait for it to fall out little by little. As she sat in the chair she said to the young lady “Can you please turn my chair away from the mirror? I do not want to see.”  When she was done, I could not believe how beautiful she looked bald. I was like “Angel, you look awesome!”. Now, not everyone can pull off bald. I know I would not be able to. I would look like a taxi cab with its two front doors open. But Angel did. She now has short hair. It looks amazing on her.  Angel was proactive in her care and did everything to keep healthy and stay positive on this journey.  Some days were not easy. Finding places to stay while going through treatments in Boston for one. Let me not forget to mention the Hope House for Cancer Patients. What a place. I have learned so much on this journey with Angel. For me, through all of it, the day she went into surgery was the worst. I knew that if a sarcoma tumor had broken open, it can spread like wild fire. I was not comfortable on the outside waiting for it to be over.  I was at the desk multiple times attempting to get information even though we knew it would be a 7-8 hour surgery. When that doctor came out and said that it was attached to the diaphragm and they are almost sure they got it all and the sarcoma is intact, well, this my friend is called a miracle. Unbelievable! Angel did an awesome job. She is the one who worked hard at keeping positive and happy. Her theme song was Happy by Pharrell Williams. We have laughed and cried. I would do this journey again with Angel. She has shown me how nothing really matters except love of family and friends. I am blessed to have her in my life.

A.M. FRIEND

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